Month: July 2014

When You Decide To Change Yourself

Maybe you were a person that wasn’t very religious at all, and you were living life like the rest of your extended family. But something came in your heart and you said, ‘you know what, I’m gonna take this guidance seriously.’ I don’t know how it happened. Maybe Allah made it happen through some YouTube video or a friend or… However it happened, But you decided to make a change for better in your life. And when you start changing the behavior in your life, the first people to see a change in you will be your own family.

They will notice it! They will notice that you are not the same anymore. You don’t talk the same, you don’t act the same, you don’t go to the same place, you don’t even have the same friends anymore. And this necessarily happens. When you take a turn towards Islam necessarily you start losing friends because your old friends used to do pretty bad things, and now you can’t do those things with them anymore, so you suffer a loss of friends. And at the same time your family starts saying you are acting a little too weird. And for the young man the family might say, ‘what’s that thing on your face? You forgot to shave? What happened to you?’ And the girls starts wearing hijab and the family might even be in shock, and this is a Muslim family, mind you.

They’ll say, ‘take that thing off your head! You’re gonna go out to the wedding looking like that? I can’t sit in the car with you like that. What do you think we are? Who do you…all of a sudden you are the Islamic role model? Who died and made you sheikh? That all of a sudden we should be looking up to you. Remember what you were like last year, man. You were the party animal. Now you’re gonna go make Salaah? Yeah, seriously, please! We know what you’re really like.’

In other words, every chance they get they say something to you. And you’re in the middle of all of this and it becomes hard to hold on to your religion in the middle of all of this. It becomes hard. Because it’s not the enemy of Islam that’s pulling you away. Who’s pulling you away? You own family, your own parents, your own husband, your own wife, your own brother, your own cousins, your own in-laws, they are the ones pulling you away. So how do you deal with that? The most inappropriate response to this pressure is anger. And you know what, that is the most common response too. Your parents start yelling at you for growing you beard, and you’re a young hot blooded guy, and what do you do? ‘(You say) Oh yeah! It’s the Sunnah, you can’t tell me what to do, you’re following culture and I’m trying to follow Islam.’ And you slam the door in their face. Way to go! Because that’s what Allah wants you to do.

What was Ibrahim’s father talking about (alaihissalam). Was he talking something small or something big? ‘(He would say) Go make Sajda to Idols, boy.’ And does he loses his cool? – Does he get angry? We have to learn how to be with our parents, even when they are calling you away from deen. It doesn’t matter if they are Muslim or not.

Allah tells us, if they struggle against you, and make you follow what they themselves have no knowledge of, don’t obey them, while at the same time accompanying them in the most dignified fashion. Obeying them is separate, respecting them is separate. Just because you didn’t obey them for the sake of Allah when it came to matters of halal and haram, or when it came to matter of eeman and shirk or kufr, just because you didn’t obey them, does not give you the right to get angry at them, you can’t!

Speaker: Sheikh Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan

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Biasakan anak bangun pagi untuk kualitas generasi

by : bendri jaisyurrahman (twitter : @ajobendri)

 

1| Perbaikan kualitas generasi selayaknya dimulai dgn kebiasaan bangun di pagi hari. Sebab generasi unggul bermula dari pagi yg masygul (sibuk)

 

2| Kebiasaan bangun pagi hendaklah dimulai dari usia dini. Peran Ayah amat dinanti. Ayah yg peduli tak abai dalam urusan bangun pagi buah hati

 

3| Jika anak terbiasa bangun siang. Maka keberkahan hidup melayang. Aktivitas ruhani menjadi jarang. Perilaku menjadi jalang

 

4| Mulailah dengan malam yang berkualitas. Anak tidak terjaga di ambang batas. Harus buat peraturan tegas. Kapan terjaga dan kapan pulas

 

5| Sehabis isya jangan ada aktivitas fisik berlebihan. Upayakan aktivitas yang menenangkan. Membaca atau bercerita yg berkesan

 

6| Biasakan berbagi perasaan. Mulai dengan cerita aktivitas harian. Evaluasi jika ada yang tidak berkenan. Sekaligus sarana pengajaran

 

7| Buat kesepakatan bangun jam berapa. Lantas anak mau dibangunkan bagaimana. Jadikan ini sebagai modal membangunkan di pagi harinya

 

8| Tutuplah aktivitas malam dengan dengarkan tilawah. Agar anak tidur membawa kalimat Allah Pemberi Rahmah. Terekam dalam memorinya sepanjang hayah

 

9| Pagi pun datang. Jalankan kesepakatan yang dibuat sebelum tidur menjelang. Bangunkan anak penuh kasih sayang. Bangunkan dengan cara yg ia bilang

 

10| Jika anak menolak tuk beranjak, ingatkan akan kesepakatan semalam. Anak siap terima konsekuensi tanpa diancam. Batasi kesenangan yg ia idam

 

11| Bangunkan anak dengan kalimat Ilahi. Agar paginya diberkahi. Jika perlu adzan di telinga kanan dan kiri. Bisikan dengan lembut tembus ke hati

 

12| Jika ia segera bangun, jangan lupa apresiasi. Hadiahi dengan doa dan kecupan di pipi. Tak lupa bertanya tentang mimpi. Anak butuh transisi

 

13| Jika anak telah terjaga, siapkan aktivitas olah jiwa dan raga. Agar fisik anak bergerak tak kembali ke kasur yg menggoda. Mudah-mudahan jadi pola

 

14| Jalankan pola ini minimal 2 pekan. Agar lama-lama jadi kebiasaan. InsyaAllah anak bangun pagi dengan kesadaran. Sebab tubuhnya telah menyesuaikan

 

15| Jika ayah tak sempat membangunkan, karena harus segera ke kantor kejar setoran, mintalah ibu berganti peran. Agar anak tak merasa diabaikan

 

16| Jangan sampai anak tumbuh remaja, punya kebiasaan yg tidak mulia. Bangun pagi selalu tertunda. Sholat shubuh di waktu dhuha. Banyak melamun tak ada guna

 

17| Jika terlanjur anak bangun kesiangan. Buatlah rencana bersama pasangan. Konsisten dan tidak saling menyalahkan. Fokus kepada upaya perbaikan

 

18| Sebelum terlambat, segera bertindak cepat. Agar masa depan anak selamat. Fokuslah kepada perbaikan pola tidur yg sehat

 

19| Jika anak terbiasa bangun pagi sedari dini, itu ciri anak berprestasi. Tak mudah dipengaruhi berbagai pergaulan yg tidak islami

 

20| So, tunggu apalagi. Jangan cuma bisa marah dan mencaci. Segera bertindak untuk buah hati. Fokuslah kepada bangun pagi. Selamat beraksi (bendri)